But I went on strike instead.

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Gratitude Giveaway Blog Hop

Happy Thanksgiving!

Welcome to the Gratitude Giveaway Blog Hop, hosted by I Am A Reader, Not A Writer and All-Consuming Books.

Today on my blog you can win a signed copy of my new book I Almost Divorced My Husband, But I Went On Strike Instead.

My books has received raving reviews from both Red Book Magazine and Kirkus Review!

Publisher's Note:To show what a good wife she was, Sherri Mills eagerly took over all household and child rearing duties at the beginning of her marriage. Years later, exhausted and angry from doing every chore in an increasingly complex family life, she'd had enough.
However, after styling hair in her salon for nearly 20 years and conducting more impromptu therapy sessions than most psychologists, Sherri knew divorce was not the solution she was looking for. Fighting to save her marriage, she did the only thing her husband would understand-she went on a domestic strike, complete with a homemade, union-style contract.
And it worked! Now with over 40 years of experience, Sherri is out to share with others what brought back her greatest joy. Inside you'll find stories from women who have gone through it all and tips to rediscover your own loving marriage. Sherri's candid confessions of going from picket fences to picket signs will have you laughing your way to a permanent, equitable division of labor and domestic bliss.

To enter all you have to do is follow my blog! Then leave a comment below letting me know how to contact you if you win. 
Thanks and have a Happy Thanksgiving~

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Another Call

I got a call from Gerald's cousin a minute ago. She said she had just found out about my book. One of her friends had told her about it so she bought one.

She said she was talking to another one of her acquaintances and the lady had told her that yes she had bought the book from a little store in Gunnison. The lady had said the book was so informative that she wanted to know where she could get five more copies. (one for each one of her kids).

I told her to tell her friend that she could get the book in any book store. Amazon, Barns and Noble, Cedar Fort, Deseret Book, Latter day Light and that almost any book store would order it if they did't have it in.

I have so many people in my own little area that don't know how to get on the internet, and there is not a book store in sight. I guess I will just have to approach the local grocery stores.

My Daughter

My daughter, Nicole called me last night and wanted to know if I wanted to hear an inspirational story.
Of course I did.

She said she had been working with a couple who was trying to sell their house and they were right in the middle of getting a divorce.Nicole told her how awful divorce was and she should think twice about it. However, it wasn't her who wanted it. It was the husband.
Nicole went home, ordered my book from Amazon and had a rush put on it to this woman's address. She had them attach a note saying, "Put this on the counter where your husband will be sure to see it."

Nicole didn't hear from her for a couple of weeks and wondered if she had even got the book.
Then last night, just before she called me she had received an email from this woman.
It said, "Thank you so much for the book, it really helped. My husband has cancelled divorce proceedings."

Friday, November 11, 2011

New Client

I had a new client today. Someone In the salon mentioned my book.

She said, "Is that you? Are you the one that wrote that book?"

I said, "Yes. have you read it?"

She said, "I sure have. My counselor gave it to me and my husband. It has really helped us."

She was such a sweet girl. I hope everything goes well for her and her husband. It sounds like they have a real good start to a whole new life.

No More Divorces Please

In one week I have heard from four clients who have close relatives who are getting divorced.
I don't know these people but it still breaks my heart. All of them have small children.
They all think life is greener on the other side of the fence. I have seen the other side of the fence and all I see are weeds. Perhaps there are a few patches of grass here and there.
Some how I wish they could come and sit in my beauty shop chair. My chair is magic and it doesn't let people out until they promise they will try to make it work for the sake of the children.

College Boy

I didn't post anything for a couple of days because I wanted anyone who went on my blog to read the interview with Mandi.

I have another story about my book 'I Almost Divorced my Husband but I Went on Strike Instead'.

I did a woman's hair yesterday who said she had gone to her cabin for the weekend. She met her college age grandson there. She said that while everyone else was out to the lake having fun, her grandson had found my book on the counter and was reading it.
She said when she went back to the cabin, hours later, he was still reading.

He said to her, "I thought this book was going to be about how bad men are." He continued, "Mom, I couldn't put it down, and it says nothing bad about men in here."

This from a young bachelor. How charming.

Man Book

A man who bought my book at the Costco book signing sent me an email. He thanked me for talking him into buying the book. He said he loved it but was wondering if I would write two chapters especially to men in the next book.

My publishers asked me if I could write my next book entirely to men and I said, "Yes."

Three Divorces

I was talking to a client yesterday and she told me sadly that her sister was getting a divorce.
I said, "get my book and have her read it, she will understand that it won't make her any happier."
She had told me earlier that all three of her sisters had divorced their first husbands because they wouldn't do anything around the house, and they felt like slaves.
How I wish my message was already out.
Men aren't jerks, they are just misinformed. This type of a problem can be changed.

Happy Endings

In an earlier blog I wrote about a client who was headed to the divorce court. Her husband was the one who filed, however she was fed up too.

After we talked awhile about her possible inequities and his possible good points and me being the out-spoken hairdresser that I was, I let her know divorce shouldn't be an option, I waited with bated breath.

She came in yesterday to thank me.(it had been 3 months).

She said,"I didn't realize that I was half the problem until you told me." Then she said, "What a wake up call."

I asked how they were doing, and she said they both had a whole new lease on life and that they were very


Please No Divorce

I had a client the other day who asked me about my book and when do I consider it appropriate to get a divorce.

I said, "As long as there is no abuse of any kind and kids are involved I think we owe it to our children to make our marriages work."

He said, "You mean a couple should stay in a marriage no matter how miserable they are?"

I said, "You want to see Miserable, then get a divorce and see what it feels like to fight to see your kids all the time." I added a few other down sides to divorce that were sure to happen.

We had a long talk and I think he saw the wisdom in Marriage counseling, trying to get that original feeling back, and I saw a light go off in his head when I mentioned that the reason she is so angry might be because she needs her loved one to share in her 79 responsibilities. It was comical, but I think he changed his thinking. Thank goodness.

What Are You Going To Live On?

I had a client in my salon yesterday who was determined to get a divorce.

She didn't work. She was having health problems. She had a daughter who was in and out of the hospital. It was her husband's stepchild.

After I discovered for sure that her husband wasn't abusive, was a good dad, but obviously ticked her off, I became ever the bearer of bad news.

I said, "Just because it says in the divorce papers that you get so much money for alimony, doesn't make it so." Then I asked, "What are you going to do for insurance?"

I filled her in on a few more facts and obviously, she is going to do what ever it takes to make her marriage work.

I wasn't fabricating anything. I have seen over and over, insurances on children being canceled, having to go back to court over and over to inforce any kind of payment, etc.. It's just not worth it.

It Has To Be A Societal Fix

One of my clients said her son had given up on women.

I said, "why?"

She said, "He said he's not going to get serious again unless he can find some one like his mom."

He meant domestically.

She said she told him, "they don't come like that any more."

Expectations on both sides are reeling out of control..

Society needs my book.

Pure Hell

I had a girl in my salon yesterday who was the product of divorce. She asked me about my book.

I said, "My next book is going to be about divorce. I want you to write your experience for me." I added, "I will have letters from lots of kids who have been through the divorce of their parents."

She started to cry and said, "Mine will be pure hell."

I could see the pain all over her face.

I Really Need That Book

I have been getting so many calls from women who say, "I really need that book."

One mother said she needed to buy one for each son. Another one said she pre-ordered 5, one for her and one for each one of her married children.

They would also make good wedding presents, to inform couples before they have the problems in the first place.