I read a real sad post on 'Good Reads'. A lady gave me a real bad review.
She was divorced. She said that some marriages are better the second time around. She was extremely upset that I stressed that children could be ruined for life by divorce.
I agree with her, surprisingly. There are marriages where the only solution is to get out. I had two of them in my own family. In that case, obviously the children will also be better off. I am not saying the children won't suffer. They will suffer and try not to take sides in any event. A lot of the children who initially suffer emmensely in the beginning can be very well adjusted and successful adults.
The only marriages I am so into saving are those couples who have small children and absolutely no abuse in the family. I also stress that if a spouse measures a lot more bad than good on the marriage ruler, getting out may be the best bet. However, this doesen't happen very often. Most dicorces come about because the grass seems greener on the other side of the fence.